Cup of Love, Bite of Life

Recently I came up with a theory - when you do what you’re not supposed to do a.k.a just follow your heart, mind, and not caring about the surrounding; things usually work out just fine, better than fine actually.

Here’s the thing, I realized that I’ve been caring so much about what people want from me, what they are expecting, what they wish me to be, that sometimes I forget about what I want. Some people choose to go to the left while some choose to go to the right, at the end what really matters is how you feel about it. I guess my point is if you want to go to the beach and do nothing for a day then do it now. Stop being so hard on yourself after all you are just following your heart and in the end, I think that’s something that will pay off.

So here I am doing what I am not supposed to do according to my culture yet things are working out even better than when I was following the so called rules.

Thoughts of today - Be yourself, love yourself, believe in yourself, and enjoy the ride to life.

Theme word of the past week is none other than the big ‘B,’ at least for me it is! This week I received a whole list of why I am entitled to the ‘B’. Listing down 10 reasons from the 5,000 words and 13 messages…

Because I’m full of myself.

Because my honesty is a little too harsh.

Because it’s all about ‘ego,’ with me.

Because I’m friendly but I’m not interested.

Because I once said, “You’re just boring.”

Because I didn’t reply back to the non-stop SMS.

Because I hung up and never called back.

Because I don’t understand British accent, seriously.

Because I said, ‘Jog on,’ block me, do whatever you have to do, and get over it.

Because I blogged the list that would make it another reason for Foreign Land Man to call me a ‘B.’

Yes, B is the new letter but then again … if I have so many of the B-ness in me … I wonder why FLM is still around displaying his picture with me in it.

Lesson of the week for me is being a bitch doesn’t mean we’re lost, confused, mean, or bad. It simply means we know what we want. I know what I want and it’s not from Foreign country that’s for sure, oh well, I guess it’s just not this particular FLM.

The bitch is back and that’s a fact.

Often times we have trouble knowing what we want out of life or even who we really are and what we believe in. I know that what I want today might not be what I want tomorrow but sometimes as years gone by your wish might just be the same.

Self-knowledge is indeed a powerful tool for you to get what you want in life. Nothing is impossible if only you believe in your beliefs, act on it, and be grateful for what you have now as well as what you will be having.

1) If you could do anything you want to tomorrow, what would it be?
If I could do anything tomorrow, I’ll be living in my own chic pad, BMW M3 in white, a beagle dog as my best friend forever, throwing the hottest house warming party with my other half, sipping chilled Prosecco with my girlfriends by the pool (at my place of course!)

2) What are your core values?
- Jealousy gets you nowhere.
- Don’t compare yourself to others.
- Family will be there for you in good and bad times.
- Do good deeds just because you want to not because you expect something in returns.
- Love, you have a lot of it to give anyway.

Thanks to my mom for practicing and teaching me these core values.

3) What are your special talents?
- Coming up with last minute solutions is my skill.
- I can do splits in Yoga, that counts.
- I can be really geeky when it comes to Photoshop or designing something i.e. blogs.
- All time life consultant.
- Public speaking.

4) What do you do better than most people you know?
I’m just really good in communication and I am pretty sure the charm is in my smile now that’s a plus point.

5) What were your dreams as a child?
- A Veterinarian at one point
- Travel the world
- If only I could fly
- Be somebody people will always remember.
- A shining star.

6) What is the thing you are most proud of accomplishing in your life so far?
- Proud to be where I am in life right now.
- Passing Statistics class by my self with no tutor, that’s like an amazing feeling.
- Being able to work hard and still manage to find time for Yoga at least 4-5 times a week.
- When I was in Kindergarten, I won a beauty pageant award despite the fact that my answer to the question, ‘What’s the shape of the moon?’ was ‘Triangle.’
- The fact that I get to work with different people from different lines is just fulfilling.

7) What will you regret not doing in your life if you continue as you are now?
I would probably regret not spending as much time as I should with my family.

What do you want people to say about you after you are no longer living? What is your legacy?
One of the most accomplished career woman known for her vibrant personality, worked experience, and positive thoughts – is that too much? Okay, no. Big heart with all the love to give, friendly, and one person you can always count on for help.

9) What do you want to do when you retire?
Chat with my girlfriends over an afternoon tea in my beautiful garden watching my kids play with Beagles, a lot of beagles! I will probably be enjoying all the money that I have from working so hard.

10) Outside of parents who influenced your life more than anyone else; who had an impact on your life and what was it about that person that meant something to you?
No particular person but more like things around me such as the blogs I read, the songs I listen to, and the movies I watch. They motivate me to be better at what I do and to love myself, believe in myself, and constantly assure me that being different actually means you are brave enough to present yourself as you are not as others want you to be.

When you know yourself and act in accordance, the path becomes clear. Top 10 Questions to Ask Yourself by Frugal Marketing.

So yes yesterday might have been the only bad day I have had as far as I can remember but thanks to my girlfriends who reminds me of what it’s like to look forward to a new day. Sometimes you just need a friend to tell you what you already know, now that is only natural.

I have finally completed my first week at Bed Supperclub and all I can say is it’s been a pretty interesting experience. Tonight is my first night that I’m actually spending here on a non-event night, just to observe and get what it’s like to be here on a regular day.

Everyone is really friendly and caring not only to me but to the guests, I am learning a lot as it is and I can’t be more grateful for the new lesson I’m learning. I’m still here, yes, blogging behind the scene listening the Michael Jackson and seeing people dance their night away.

Ironically, one thing remains the same as my thought last night, you only need your friends that actually cares about you. It doesn’t matter if it’s your boyfriend, your date, your ex-date, your current blacklisted person, I mean if at the end of the day if you’re thinking about them and they are thinking about you then I guess it’s fine to forgive, forget, and be there for each other.

But for some you can always forgive and never forget now that’s when I would just say. ‘walk away.’ And as promised on my FB status, I am all Farrah Fawcett today and I’m lovin’ it!

The past week has been quite an adventure for my friends and I, it seems like all of us are just going through something whether it’s suffering from a disease of a “Vacation Hungover,” “Miswanting Male Syndrome,” “Lost of Gaydar Signal,” to “Denying in Denial.” We went through it all, session after session after session, each slowly joining the Confusion Club where we shared our feelings.

Here’s what I believe, friends are for sharing feelings, girlfriends especially! Words to men is to share your feelings somewhere else, I mean after that long day last thing we need is another twenty, thirty, or forty something man complaining. Now that it’s been said, us girls have also concluded that no one loves you like your dad do and let’s face it, no one loves you like you YOU do.

Word of wisdom to start your Tuesday is to love yourself, accept yourself, and don’t compromise your values for anyone but you. Now go on and have a you you you week.

New lovers kiss and swear they’ll never stray but they stray.
And every night that party ends the same with too much wine they find something’s changed.

In time, you learn to love yourself